My wife and I reached an impasse on the middle name for our boy. We like Micah for a first name, and my last name sounds like Micelli.
Is there a solution that we haven’t thought of? I’m looking for any kind of new idea to throw into the discussion!
First of all, a middle name is rarely used throughout one’s life. Usually only on two occasions: when you’re in trouble with your parents, and when you’re getting married. So it should not really be a huge point of contention. You mentioned that you “fear” the second name will be neglected and it would be a slight to your grandfather. Honestly, he can’t be slighted if he’s gone. That’s only how you would feel.
I, myself, am not a big fan of two (or more) middle names. It almost always comes out of a name conflict, like your predicament. Here is a new idea: combine both grandfathers’ names. How about Callen or Callan?
If you don’t like Callan, come up with some other names that would combine elements of Casper and Allen. To honor them, it does not have to be literal.