Ask Grandma Maggie

Parenting & Childcare Advice
Peggy Moss (1933-2014), also known as Grandma Maggie, penned a parenting column on this site for many years. Back by popular demand, we are republishing the column, sharing with you the best of Grandma Maggie’s parenting and childcare advice.
Unfortunately Grandma Maggie is no longer able to take questions.

I am afraid I will have a miscarriage.

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Hi Grandma Maggie,

Hi! I am a 27 year old deaf female. I have 3 beautiful children who are 6, 3 and 1 years old. I found out I am pregnant with my 4th child few days ago. I am 2 months pregnant. I worried so much about miscarriage because I went through two miscarriages and that’s why I am afraid to miscarry another one. I want to stop thinking of miscarriage. How? My husband says have faith and you will have a beautiful baby on the way. Also, I am afraid of finding another boy on the way. My husband and I wanted to have another girl. We both have 2 boys and 1 girl. I am raising the kids on my own since my husband is in Korea and I am not sure when he is coming back home from Korea for good. Do you think I will be fine with this 4th child? I hope so! I don’t want to lose the baby this time. It is my last child.

I hope to get your advice,


Dear Christy,

The reality is I cannot assure you of not having a miscarriage. When you decided to have a fourth child it was a chance you knew existed. Also, when one decides to have a baby, it’s a baby (not a boy or a girl) that you decide upon. As of yet, the gender cannot be specified.

My best,

Grandma Maggie