Grandma Maggie answers questions about parenting and childcare issues only. She is a mother of four girls and grandmother to two boys and two girls. Maggie is trained in early childhood education, and was the owner of a successful day care center for many years.
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Dear Grandma Maggie,
My husband and I have been together for six years (married for three). I am only 25 years old, but we both want to be young parents. We have been talking about starting a family for a while, but the response from family and friends has been very negative: "You have plenty of time for kids", "You're too young to have children now", "just enjoy each other while you can", etc. Although we've made our own decision to try to conceive now, we are keeping it a secret from those people closest to us because I fear their reaction. I know I shouldn't care what other people think, but I want to share this news with our family and friends. How should I respond if they say something negative about our age?
Thanks for the advice!
Hi Grandma Maggie,
I am a first time, stay-at-home mother who is having a heck of a time getting my 19 month old son to nap (I am also 36 weeks pregnant with my second son)! He has always been a little finicky in his napping (if we had any change in schedule it would take him a day or so to recover) but we have had the same routine since he was about 10 months old; bedtime from 7:30pm-7:30am, nap from 12:30-2:30pm.
About three weeks ago he all of a sudden stopped taking his naps consistently. I feel like the turning point was when I had my Grandmother-in-law babysit and for some reason my son slept for 4 hours during his nap that day! Ever since then, I go to lay him down and he sits in his crib talking to himself and sometimes whining or crying a little. After about two hours (earlier if he is really upset and I go and get him), I feel it's been too much time and I finally get him out thinking "well at least he had quiet time". By about 5:00pm he gets very cranky, indicating he is definitely tired so I do not feel like we are done with the napping days. The longer this goes on, the more I notice an extreme change in his attitude. He gets frustrated way too easily, throwing himself and his toys around, falling/stumbling more often, crying uncontrollably, it's been a pain to get him to eat much.... so I feel like he is ridiculously overtired. We live in a rural area and have to drive 15 min or so to the grocery store/other errands and he typically falls asleep in the car, further indicating to me that he is indeed sleepy!
He also did get his bottom molars in two weeks ago, so I assume those are bothering him. I would usually give him a little baby tylenol before nap/bedtime for the pain, but for the last week I have tried baby ibuprofen since I heard it works better for teething pain. He resists taking it and seems somewhat cranky afterward, so I am starting to think it gives him a tummy ache even though I administer it with food.
His nighttime sleep is generally uninterrupted, but once or twice in the last three weeks he has woken up in the middle of the night with what seemed like sleep terrors or nightmares. He would just cry and we would go in to comfort him, then he'd go back to sleep within 20min. I researched this and it sounds like these sleep disturbances may be common in an overtired baby.
Please help! Any advice is much appreciated.
Hi Grandma. My name is Samantha. I am a single-mom working at a local doctor's office. I am also 7 months pregnant with a beautiful baby girl and I have another girl too, who is 3. I am getting a little worried about taking care of two children, especially one that will need to be held 24/7, and one that is wild and very curious. I am getting several months off of work to get my act straight, and my mother will be helping me whenever she can. But, when she can't is probably when I am gonna need her the most. Shopping, parks, resturants, all will be hectic. My question is basically if I should get a nanny to care for my children and go with me places, or just go cold turkey and do it myself? Thank you.
I'm close to my delivery time for my son. This is it first pregnancy and I want to know from a mother's view if breast feeding is the best for my baby. I've heard from my mother-in-law that it isn't. My doctor says it's my choice. I want to know what is best for both me and my baby.
Hi Grandma Maggie,
I came upon your page and figured I'd give it a shot on this issue we're having in our home.
My husband, kids and I just moved into a new house. For the first time we have a smoke alarm in every bedroom as well as a security system that might I add... we have no idea how to use. About a week ago, my husband was fooling around with it. I walked in front of one of the motion sensors and set it off by accident. The system started beeping, flashing and TALKING, startling everyone in the house, especially my 6yr son and 3yr daughter. I explained to them that it was just Daddy trying to figure out the system and everything was okay, but since then, getting the two of them to bed has been a NIGHTMARE.
Both of them are petrified of the smoke alarms, which flashes a tiny light every 30 seconds or so, in their rooms. They're afraid that it's watching them while they're sleeping or that if they walk under it while it flashes, it's going to go off again. My 3 year old wet her bed the other night because she was too scared to walk to the bathroom, for fear that when she walked by the motion sensor, the system would go off. We don't even put it on!
I have no idea what to do. I can't take the alarms off the ceiling. I don't want to explain to them what the system is or what the alarms in the bedrooms are for in fear of getting them more scared. Any ideas?
Hello, My name is Amanda and I'm 27 and expecting my third child.
I'm very excited about having another child as I love my other two kids so much. I'm worried about people's reaction to the news that we are expecting again.My mother doesn't think I should have more kids (which is funny as she had 5 and adopted me)and my husband's sister hasn't been able to carry a baby to term yet. My husband is very excited and doesn't care what anybody thinks but I haven't gotten the great happy reaction that I got for either of my other two children and it makes me nervous.
I'm concerned this time that my in-laws will be upset that we got pregnant knowing that my sister in law has been having such a hard time. Any advice as to how to break the news to our families?
Grandma Maggie is not a medical professional and writes purely from her own experience as a mother, grandmother and caregiver. Her advice is her opinion only, and should only be taken as one woman's opinions, which may not be appropriate for everyone. Each situation merits its own evaluation. If seeking medical advice, please call your family pediatrician.