Grandma Maggie answers questions about parenting and childcare issues only. She is a mother of four girls and grandmother to two boys and two girls. Maggie is trained in early childhood education, and was the owner of a successful day care center for many years.
Due to health reasons, Grandma Maggie is not currently taking any questions.
Q1 My two year old baby sometimes becomes adamant to come on front seat when I am driving. Any amount of distraction or persuasion by my parents in the back seat does not help until I stop driving and come home. Please let me know as how to manage this problem.
Q2 Some psychologists say that for better and overall development of child, the child by the age of three should be kept in best schooling hostel away from parents. I would like to have your expert advice on this. We are so much attached to our baby that even a thought to keep him away is frightening to us.
With fond regards,
Hi Grandma Maggie,
I'd like to get an unbiased opinion. My husband of 3 years and I have a blended family, I am 39 and he is 38. From a previous marriage, I have an 11 yr old girl and 8 yr old boy and my husband has a 16 yr old girl and 15 yr old boy. Hubby has sole custody (mom lost parental rights and has never been involved in their lives), I have primary custody of my two and they see their dad every other weekend, alternating holidays, etc. Hubby was single for 10 years and me for 2 when we started dating. His kids never wanted to share their dad, having had him to themselves for 10 years¦mine were ecstatic to have a new brother and sister.
I'm very independent, have my own way of thinking, etc. and have no problem telling my family, or his, to butt out. My husband, on the other hand, has always depended on his parents and they are very controlling. This in itself has created havoc in our marriage. Add to that hubby is an alcoholic but has been sober for 6 months after attending a rehab facility. We have been separated several months but continued dating to try and work things out. This did not make either sides of our families happy, to which I told mine, it's my life. His family has been putting massive amounts of pressure on us. His kids are threatening to live w/ grandma and grandpa if he stays with me and my kids, and his parents are supporting the kids for him to leave.
We agreed no more kids, although I wanted one, he didn't and was extremely vocal about this so it was agreed, no more. Here's the situation now: I just found out I'm pregnant. I am VERY shocked but happy about the baby, though sad about the timing and the situation. I told him on Thursday, he hung up on me and I haven't heard from him since (today is Wednesday of the following week).
I knew he wouldn't be happy¦I DID expect a reaction. I'm trying to give him time to absorb this news. I absorbed and have moved on to the realization things are what they are, nothing can be done about this so having a fit or being depressed is silly (I think women, in general, are better at handling shocks and moving forward than menâ€¦in general!) We are still separated, and living in different houses so our communication other than dates has been phone/texting, etc.
I have a tendency to be stubborn so, my question: Do I let him contact me first? If not, how long do I let this go on? Do I send him info on doctor's visits or let him ask? I have a sonogram scheduled for next week. If he has no intentions of being involved, that is his choice and as I said, things will still move forward regardless. I don't want him to feel like I am excluding him though, but this isn't going to just go away. In the past, my husband has always dealt with things as stick your head in the sand and it will go away.
Oh experienced wise grandma, help!
I have a two year old daughter who doesn't talk like she should. Most kids her age that I know are talking well and she still uses baby talk. She is very smart and catches on to stuff quickly. She knows how to turn the TV off, put a dvd in the dvd player, and play with a boxed set of kniect system. She can say some words. I'm just worried. Should I put her in speech therapy? Then again I want to put her in day care so she can be around my kids and probably start talking. I just don't know what to do. She my first child.
Dear Grandma Maggie,
My husband and I have been together for six years (married for three). I am only 25 years old, but we both want to be young parents. We have been talking about starting a family for a while, but the response from family and friends has been very negative: "You have plenty of time for kids", "You're too young to have children now", "just enjoy each other while you can", etc. Although we've made our own decision to try to conceive now, we are keeping it a secret from those people closest to us because I fear their reaction. I know I shouldn't care what other people think, but I want to share this news with our family and friends. How should I respond if they say something negative about our age?
Thanks for the advice!
I was 23 when I got pregnant after the doctors had told me for years it was impossible. But my fiancÃ© at the time thought I lied and left me. I was in a relationship through half my pregnancy until about a week ago and I donâ€™t know whether I should continue calling the second man daddy? He says he wants to be in her life, but he has two other children from a previous marriage that he rarely sees. His track record for taking care of his children isnâ€™t very good. Should I trust him to stick around?
Dear Grandma Maggie:
Hi my name is Fallon and I'm the 23-year-old mother of two baby boys. My older one is 2-years-old and my little guy is 1. I have two problems that I think I'm going to need your help with. My older one is in the middle of potty training. Now he is completely potty trained at daycare but when he gets home he doesn't let us know he needs to go to the bathroom. Now I should probably inform you that he's not really talking yet but he still at least stands by the teacher and lets her know when he has to go potty. There is a few times he will go at home, when someone can catch it. And we do show him how happy we are by dancing around and calling him a big boy and everything but it's just not consistent. What can I do to help him go at home on a regular basis? My other problem is simply this: they don't sleep in their own beds. My little one will at least fall asleep in his bed but he eventually ends up with me sometime during the night. And my older one is not even interested in lying down in his bed at all. If I try to put him in his bed he freaks out, he starts throwing his tantrums until I finally give in and allow him to sleep with me. What can I do to put my boys to sleep in their bed and make sure they stay in there all night? Please help, I haven't had a full night's sleep in 3 years.
Hi Grandma Maggie,
I am expecting my third grand-baby next July and we are hoping that it is a little girl. My first granddaughter's name was SarahAshley Lynn and I would like to see if you can help me with a name to pick out for this one. I found a few in the list of names, but I want something that is special because I don't know if I will be able to be at the birth of this one or not. If you could give me some advice I sure would appreciate it.
Kimberley, a Proud Grandma
Dear Grandma Maggie,
I am pregnant with quadruplets! My husband and I cannot believe it. I was worried before that my four-year-old daughter, Peyton, would have adjustment issues with one new baby, but four? This house is going to be crazy! She is a sweetheart. She has no behavior issues, or anything like that -- I'm just worried. Before I thought it will only change a bit, so we won't have any major issues to worry about. But she is going to be kind of alone. When the babies get older it will be the quadruplets and then just Peyton. Any advice?
Thanks so much,
I am 7 months pregnant with a baby boy and I just really need some advice on what to do. My son's father and I didn't work out at all. He left me when I was 3 months pregnant, yet every now and then he wants to be a dad and he will go buy his son something, but then he says that he's not his child. What do I do? I just want to give up, because it hurts me so bad that he would say something like that. I don't want to put my son in that situation, to be around a person that doesn't care about him. I need some advice please.
It's great to find your resources. I have an 11 day old baby girl (Annabelle). This is our first child (my husband and I) and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. I had a C-section last week & I'm still recovering. It's frustrating when you can't 'do' as much as you like, though usually I do it anyway because I don't want to miss out!
However, that's besides the point. I noticed yesterday while feeding her she had flaky skin around her ankles, wrists. Now this morning I noticed she'd got it all over her tummy. I was planning on giving her a sponge bath this afternoon or evening, and didn't want to dry her out anymore.
Is baby lotion safe? Baby oil seems to 'oily' for me, but if that's what it takes... Your advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you so much!
Dear Grandma Maggie,
I have a daughter who is 12. She is in the sixth grade. The three of us (my husband, my daughter and I) decided that we would try to have another baby. My daughter is learning in science about where babies come from and all that, so she understands the process. Unfortunately, I just found out we failed. I had a miscarriage. My husband and I are so upset. It is heartbreaking. My daughter should know that she will not be having a little brother/sister, but I donâ€™t know how to tell her. I mean, how do you tell your twelve-year-old daughter (after she admitting feeling a bit lonely at times, and that she wanted a little sibling) that you had a miscarriage? Itâ€™s hard enough for my husband and me to deal with it, but a child? Please give me some advice.
I can't seem to get my mother-in-law to back off and respect my parenting skills and religion. I'm of one religion and happy about it. She has left this religion and is now Born-Again. All she wants is my daughter to follow in her religion and do the very thing she does best: hurt people with a book. How do I tell her that itâ€™s not a weapon?
Grandma Maggie is not a medical professional and writes purely from her own experience as a mother, grandmother and caregiver. Her advice is her opinion only, and should only be taken as one woman's opinions, which may not be appropriate for everyone. Each situation merits its own evaluation. If seeking medical advice, please call your family pediatrician.