I’ve been reading your BabyNames site for a while and I really enjoy it. I have a question about the name Christian. Can it be just a name, not connected with religious views of a person who bears it or his/her relatives? I mean, is it OK if people of other religion than Christianity name their son Christian or is the meaning of the name too strong? I just wonder, not having plans of naming someone with that name.
Kitty, from Moscow, Russia
Christian is an adjective. Here in the U.S., yes, the name is closely associated with the religion and I would guess most often used for Christian children.
Personally, I don’t recommend it for any child. It’s what I call an “expectation” name. An unspoken–well really SPOKEN–expectation is put on the child to live up to the name. Same goes with Charity, Honor, Justice, you get the point.
The names Christopher and Christina, however, have a basis from the word Christian and its faith but are not as closely tied to it. If you are open to using similar names, I would recommend those names.
My boys are 2.5 years apart and we wanted to give them strong Persian names. Our oldest is Darius (Dariush) and our youngest is Darian. I loved their names until recently when people/strangers started commenting on how similar they are, and it’s confusing. Our family voted on our youngest name and chose Darian (who is 16 months old).
Now I’m worried that they are going to be made fun of at school. In your opinion, should I start calling Darian by a nickname like Rian or Ian…..or am I over-analyzing this situation?
My husband thinks Darius and Darian are fine and there is no issue, but I’m losing sleep over this. Your advise is really appreciate.
Shadi (confused Mom)
If you had asked me about your second son’s name before he was born, I would have advised against Darian. Yes, the names are too similar and it is confusing.
However now that Darian is over a year old, he has already identified with his name and I would not go do anything rash like changing it. Your solution is perfect: start thinking of some nicknames that you can at least call him at home that will avoid confusion in the household. If he likes his nickname, he’ll take it to school with him. If not, maybe he’ll choose his own.
Good luck and let me know what you choose!
My husband and I are expecting our first child in a few weeks and we do not know if we are having a boy or girl. We have been set on a boy’s name for more than two years, and it is actually my great-grandfather’s name, and I love it.
My husband’s distant cousin who lives one state away just had a baby this week and gave their son the same name. Also, unfortunately, this child shares the same last name as ours. I feel very heartbroken over this and hate to pick another name as we have become so attached to this one. I have never met this cousin and my husband has only met him a couple of times in his childhood. Would it be poor etiquette to keep the same name or should we think of an alternative?
Thank you for your help!
It’s one thing to have a close family member snipe a name (especially if you share a surname)! That is inexcusable. But I don’t see a distant family member being that much of an issue.
My advice on name sniping:
* If the two children will not be in close proximity, i.e. not live in the same community, not share schools or friends–then it’s not an issue.
* If the two children do not share the same surname, then it’s not an issue.
* If you had made clear your baby name choice and a close relative uses it before you–close meaning a sibling or next-door cousin–then they’re just jerks! Stick to your guns and use it, anyway, following the two points above.
So, yes, stop being heartbroken and use your intended name! I’m happy to hear from others who have actually gone through this with their relatives or BFFs.
I love reading the naming blogs, BUT I have to say my #1 pet peeve is when the “experts” advise not to use a name that is going to cause your child to spell it. I agree that very unusual spellings can make a name seem less “classy” but simple variations seem perfectly fine to me. My main irritation is that even the MOST simple of names, take John or Catherine for example, which are VERY traditional, have variations in spellings, and will require your child to spell out their name. Therefore, I don’t see the point of trying to avoid spelling your name—it’s so common that I don’t think that should be an impediment. I’ve had to spell out my name my whole life, and honestly it never bothers me. I’d love to see a poll taken, where people answer whether or not it actually bothers them to spell out their name, before putting such an emphasis on avoiding it…
Thank you for your input. We always encourage our readers to tell us about their real-life name experiences. We would love to hear from others about this issue. Did you have a common name with an unusual spelling? Was it a burden for you? Let us know.